When children play when they are first interacting with other kids, they do not judge them on their size, race, etc. Once they start going to school, that still stays the same. As soon as puberty hits around the ages of 10-13, they become more conscious of themselves and those they associate with. High school is where the transition from accepting everyone to accepting only a select few, occurs. May it be physical attributes, common interests or educational similarities that separate one group from another, it still isolates those who seem to not fit in anywhere. I was one of the few who was not accepted by any one select group. I kind of knew it was my weight that pushed others away, but, just the thought of that is horrible. We, as humans, have the freedom to choose right and wrong. Yeah there always is pressure to want to fit in so, even if you do not agree with what someone says or does, you follow along to keep their attention and friendship. I wasn't willing to judge others like that or to be in a group who would isolate themselves because of one difference from another.
Society isn't much different from a high school lunch room where the nerds stuck together, the cool kids took over any table they wanted and the kids who were jocks decided to pick on the smaller kids. My question is though, why do we want to be outcasted from other people? Why do we not want to be friends with those who are different from us? Are we scared?
The answer to all of these is simple: we care too much about what others think of us. Yeah some say they could care less what people say, but, they may be the first person to check with people on the latest gossip. For those who talk about other people behind their backs, why do that either? It will just come back to bite you in the butt.
Physical appearance has to be the worst thing that society makes us self conscious about. All you see is stick-thin girls, shirtless, buff guys and negative placed on same sex couples. Models, or fashion models, are wanted to be really thin and we all know that isn't healthy but the younger generations grow up wanting to be accepted like the models are. Same goes with celebrities. If you carry any extra weight on you, you are "fat" shamed. If you get too "thin" then they make a whole scene about that as well. So you can see why so many young girls either have eating disorders, distorted perceptions of their bodies, or get bullied for being a tad different from society's "norm". Men also feel the need to look a certain way when they see home men are portrayed in society as well. You usually see buff men with their shirts off or men who are physically fit. This ads pressure for guys to be that way too. The thing society doesn't understand is that not everyone is genetically able to be as they want us to be. We shouldn't be what they want either. We need to be who we are. OURSELVES!
Same sex couples are also discriminated against on how they look. If you look like a guy, then you have to be a guy and vise versa for a woman. God made us to be as we are. You can not help who you are attracted to or who you fall in love with. It is an instinct that everyone truly needs to embrace. Be yourself. If you are a female who likes females, then be happy with the woman you love. Men do the same. Do not let a man made idea like our society change your feelings. If people can not accept others as they are, then why do they get mad when people do not do the same for them? It is a double edged sword and we all need to appreciate the diversity that our world has to offer, because, a world where we are all the same would be really boring. It would also look too perfect. No one in this world is perfect. So why does society expect us to be? GREAT QUESTION....
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